Thursday, April 7, 2016

What Can You Do When You Don’t Sleep Well?

Do you have trouble falling asleep at night?  Maybe you toss and turn all night.  Maybe you wake up too early in the morning.  Sometimes sleep can be elusive, but it’s vital for the health of your brain. 

Contrary to popular belief, alcohol will not help you sleep better.  Never drink alcohol before going to bed.  Alcohol and sleep don’t mix.  Alcohol interrupts the REM cycles in the normal sleep process.  Instead of waking up refreshed, you’re exhausted. 

Adopting a wellness lifestyle helps.  Get plenty of exercise, make nutritious food choices, create a healthy work/play balance each day. 

If that doesn’t help, consider the possibility of an undiagnosed allergy.  Allergies to food, fillers in vitamin supplements, additives, scents, chemicals, and ingredients in skin care products can keep you awake at night.  You can even be allergic to some organic foods and herbs. 

Start a diary to determine your allergies.  Keep track of everything you eat throughout the day, including your vitamins and supplements.  Do the same with the products you use, like lotions, shampoo, conditioner, makeup, moisturizer, body sprays, and perfumes.

After a while patterns will emerge, showing you which foods, scents, and personal care products are disturbing your sleep.  Eliminate them from your life.

Sometimes discovering hidden allergies may be all you need to get a good night’s sleep.  Sweet dreams!

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Tuesday, December 22, 2015

Codependency: The Illusion of Potential

You knew he was a narcissist when you met him.  But you fell in love with him anyway.  I mean, he was an awesome guy, and he had great potential.  He just needed someone to help him realize it, right?

Wrong.  Great potential in a narcissist is an illusion.  Most have no intention of doing the work to make that potential a reality.  Instead, you’ve been trying to do the work for him, haven’t you?

True, he can be sweet, loving, and wonderful.  But those are fleeting moments, aren’t they?  Most of the time he can’t remember anything you’ve said.  He breaks every promise he makes to you and thinks it’s no big deal.  You’ve been together for years, and he still doesn’t know your favorite color.  He even blames you for his mistakes. 

Worst of all, he’s a master at gaslighting and twisting the truth.  You’re so confused you don’t know what to believe.  You’ve cried more tears during the years you’ve been with him than any other time in your life.  You’ve even developed some health problems that won’t go away.

So why are you still with him?  He may have great potential, but it’s his responsibility to make that a reality.  Not yours.  Part of healing from codependency means walking away from abusive, self-absorbed, narcissistic people.  Even if it’s the man you love. 

Be good to yourself.  Get professional help.  Find a therapist or life coach to show you how to rearrange your priorities, so you’re at the top of your list rather than at the bottom. 

Your potential is not an illusion.  It deserves all your attention.  Concentrate on developing your potential instead of his.  I think it’s time, don’t you?

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